Did you know that the average age to lose your virginity in the US for both male and female is approximately 17? Still today the fact remains to be strongly debated on what a virgin truly is. The dictionary account of being a virgin is as followed. A "virgin" is a person who has never had sexual intercourse. Undefiled, intact, spotless, unmarked, unruined, untouched. The old school scientific and traditional fact to qualify a young lady to being considered still a virgin is said that a girl should generally have her hymen in place. But what about the 20% of ladies who aren't born with a hymen at all or those who lose their hymen by falling off their bikes or may simply lose it by over-exerting themselves in a very physical gym activity. Does that make those particular young ladies ruined or spoiled leaving them to be thought of as no longer virgin?

 

This is where the fine-line tape of moral consciousness and semantics get tangled & somehow crossed when it is time to conclude an accurate accountability of the truth and the realistic measures of words. We should be considerably careful to also not leave out what declares a guy as being a virgin. As we know without a doubt guys aren't born with a hymen at all. The closest understanding that we may have come upon thus far, which may declare any & all persons a virgin is possibly the level of penetration, but it isnt just the penetration alone. It's more so what object or particular body parts are to be included within these accounts of penetrating activity. Also how invasive this penetration is thought to be.

 

In my book there are three types of virgins. There is the Holistic Virgin, the Technical Virgin, and the Born Again Virgin. The "Holistic Virgin" has never ever been touched. She or he has never allowed anyone anywhere near their sacred parts. They are truthfully committed to their chastity. The CW character Jane Villanueva of the hit series  "Jane the Virgin" is a prime example of what I consider to be a straight up "Holistic Virgin." Regardless to all the unfortunate mishaps that have occurred in and around her life she continues to maintain commitment to herself and her oath to her abuela that she will remain pure until the day she is married. I believe those same rules would be exact when applied to the life of a young man committing himself to his virginity.  A "technical virgin" is what most often some young ladies of today's generation consider themselves to be. They are the type of "virgins" who have done most everything & covered every single level except take it all the way to homebase. Which of course would be vaginal penetration. That means they think that they will still remain virgins even if they have "only" had, oral, anal, & anything else that you can possibly think of sexually that doesn't include their vagina.

 

Same rules apply to the guys as long as they haven't had any interactions with a female's vagina they feel they are technically still virgins and maintain some levels of purity. Lastly there are the "Born Again Virgins" Those who have definitely went all the way. They may or may not be experienced but they have surely covered all bases. They could have had sex more than once but they may not be pleased with their own actions. Also  they may have turned over a new found "faith leaf". No longer wanting to feel impure so they have made the conscious decision to abstain from any and all sexual activities. Basically choosing to be celibate.

 

Honestly I'm not sure if being a virgin and staying a virgin is as impressively important to today's youth as it once was decades and maybe even centuries ago. Especially when more often there are some guy and girl cliques that identify the loss of virginity as being cool and in a sense a "rite of passage" into adulthood. Get this the National Survey of Family Growth all compiled by the (CDC) says that on an average early teen males are more likely to have had sexual intercourse than early teen females. Yet females are about 5% less likely to use protection than males are. I must admit I found that to be quite disturbing. 

 

Although I do realize more than anyone that none of us are perfect I still found myself pondering. Why would it be that these younger guys care more about their health than the younger girls? I continued to read and what I also found even more alarming was that the CDC'S campaign and all their PSA messages were geared toward giving information on double protection against teen pregnancy; but what about the double protection against sexually transmitted infections and diseases? Wasn't staying safe as equally important or even more so than becoming an early parent?

 

Maybe the real answer was to remain a full fledge virgin until the right time actually was the right time. No matter how you slice or dice it abstinence will always be the surest way to stay fully and utterly protected. But let's be realistic here life happens and individually at a certain age all of our hormones start to simmer eventually boiling over and out of control. Being even more specific some of us are hardwired to have more will power than others. Now that doesn't make anyone of us better than the next it just is what it is. All of us develop differently but what's common to us all is puberty and once you enter these uncharted territories at a certain peak of your life being pubescent has a way to make us all start feeling freaking weird.

 

It's simply not very easy to ignore. I mean no doubt your life will slow down and drastically be altered if you were to have a baby at say a stupendously young age but increasing your odds of contracting HIV or full blown AIDS and all those other countless nasty little infections or diseases will essentially kill your life off as you know it. So what about encouraging not only young men to come prepared by bringing condoms of their own but also informing the young women that they should be equally as equipped by bringing their own variety of condoms as well. All the posters I read on the CDC webpage said, "HIS CONDOM AND HER HORMONAL BIRTH CONTROL OR IUD EQUALS DOUBLE PROTECTION." So I'm like huh, Wuh? Like WTF. You cannot be serious? See my over standing of all of this is double protection against STDs and STIs is not only equipping those youngsters with condoms but triple protecting them with the perganant info that is needed to arm or inspire both males and females to help them all make wiser decisions.

 

Please people understand that I am not here to scare the living daylights out of any of you or entise any of you to have sex or abstain from anything specifically. I am simply here to properly arm you all with as much information, common sense logics and education that I possibly can. Growing up I really wished people were more supportive and downright raw and real with me. The fact of the matter is that people would rather take a chance at having raw sex themselves before they would actually commit to an openly informative and engaging healthy conversation that may actively save lives. So to the tongue twist of a heated "French kiss" that could ultimately change it all in just one glimpse. Everything in our lives seems to start off and end with how well we will perform the very first time. Hyped over the propaganda and failing to truly realize that everyone starts out with little to no experience at some point.

 

No one is a pro so there is no reason to trip. We all continue to learn new moves as we grow. Lacking the reality of wisdom that truthfully we are all created differently and that makes us all continue to be special, just like a virgin.